what I figured out this week: discipline, money, routine, and patience

trying to figure it all out with a plus one

This week I figured out that the life I want is going to require more discipline than I thought.

Not just motivation.

Not just dreaming.

Not just talking about what I want.

Actual discipline.

And that starts with being honest about my priorities.

Right now my priorities are my health, my finances, my career, and my daughter.

If I don’t get those in order, nothing else works.

I have to prioritize my finances

One thing I realized this week is that I need to take my finances more seriously.

Not because I’m suffering.

But because the life you want COST

I have DEBT

We have expenses that keep getting more expensive

So, you know what I did…

I put everything in Chatgpt

All my credit card debt

Sofi loan debt

Investments I put into every month

life insurances

monthly bills

monthly groceries

trainer expenses

Literally EVERYTHING I can think of

I took a screen shot and dropped it in the Chat

and I told it exactly what you see at below.

I literally told chat all my monthly expenses and debts

No judgement-I love Chat

And we came up with a plan of ACTION

You have to drop the EGO

Really sit there and say what you need help with

I knew I needed help with working out

I knew I needed help with understanding how investments work

What investment accounts I should open for Sariah

What investment accounts I should open for MYSELF

How much should I invest?

What stocks should I invest in?

We are officially a UNIT

I literally said I WANT TO WORK AT BUILDING FREEDOM FOR ME AND SARIAH

More experiences.

More opportunities for Sariah.

More peace of mind.

I don’t want to feel like I have to work 12-hour days forever just to maintain a lifestyle.

I want a life where I can:

visit my family when I want,

put Sariah in activities,

expose her to different things,

and build something that doesn’t depend only on my paycheck.

That means I have to start using my time differently.

I need to use my time better

This week I realized I waste time when I don’t plan.

So now I’m going back to what always worked for me.

Routine.

Practice.

Structure.

If I want to pass my certification, build digital products, publish Sariah’s books, work out, and still be a good mom…

I have to schedule it.

Not hope for it.

Schedule it.

My goal after spring break:

Wake up 4:15

Gym at 5:00

Done by 6:00

Get ready

Get Sariah ready

School drop off

Work by 7:30

Then use nap time, evenings, and weekends with purpose.

Not perfectly.

But intentionally.

When I need to be at work at 6:30

Wake up at 4:00 am

Go to my home gym

Practice the sets I currently do with the trainer at HOME

habits, not goals

Another thing I realized this week is that I keep saying “goal” when what I really mean is habits
It’s not my goal to be disciplined.
It’s my habit of choice.

It’s my habit of choice to:

work out

study

create content

publish books

build digital products

be an assistant principal

keep growing

It’s my habit of choice to show Sariah what consistency looks like.

Not perfection.

Consistency.

I want Sariah to see something different

I want her to see that:

You don’t have to be perfect to be confident.

You don’t have to look a certain way to feel beautiful.

You don’t have to follow everybody else.

Health is wealth.

Feeling good mentally, physically, emotionally…

That’s the real success.

And if I want her to believe that, I have to live it first.

traveling with a toddler taught me patience

Another thing I figured out this week…

Traveling with an 18-month-old will test you.

We almost missed our flight.

I had been up since 2:30 in the morning.

Everything in me wanted to freak out.

But I didn’t.

I stayed calm.

And at the last minute, they called her name and we got on the plane.

That moment reminded me:

Patience matters.

Calm matters.

Discipline matters.

Not just in big things.

In everything.